What to prioritize


I have been trying to figure out what to write my first blog about for a while now. I kept thinking that this blog right here is how people will view me, judge me, and even decide if they will come back and read my second blog. Yes, that may very well be true, but the stress of this isn’t worth it. This is a blog: a place for me to write and share information with everyone and not be stressed while doing it.

That brings me to the topic. What are we supposed to prioritize then? Not just for a blog, but with everything in our lives? We, as humans, are so stressed and overwhelmed and it makes one wonder how we ever survived so long with all the problems that come with stress. I realized though, most of us are prioritizing things incorrectly.

We focus on putting our children first, our pets, our schooling, how we will come across to others, how we will plan our day, etc. We forget the most important part of the equation: OURSELVES. If we don’t make ourselves the first priority, then we won’t be here to prioritize anything else. I’ll say it again: If we do not make ourselves the FIRST PRIORITY, then we won’t be here to prioritize anything else.

So, that’s what I’m doing. I am focusing on myself and my energy. You’re probably thinking ‘Okay, well good for you, but what about me? You don’t even know me, the stress I deal with, how crazy my life is, and there is no way you can tell me that it’s an easy fix to reduce my stress.’ You’re right. I don’t know you, but I would like to. I don’t know the stress you deal with, but I’d like to know. I don’t know how crazy your life is, but I’d love for you to share your stories. I won’t tell you it is an easy fix either, however I will tell you that it gets easier with time when you put yourself first. I can help you with that. First step, take a deep breath, and then tell yourself that you are the most important thing in your life because you are life. Get it?

I’ll keep you updated on my journey of putting myself first, and I’d love to have you all follow along, and keep me updated on yours.

You can post in the comments or email me. Sending positive energy and blessings to you all!

Music soothes the soul

I needed tonight.

I went to see New Year’s Day, In This Moment, and Halestorm tonight with one of my best friends. At first, I was feeling guilty for leaving my son and roomie behind, and going out on an adventure that wouldn’t even result in me bringing a souvenir back for them.

Then, I reminded myself that I need to take care of myself, spiritually, physically, and mentally. I’m stressed, and have been feeling undervalued by my family lately. There have been so many thoughts going through my mind. Questioning if I’m failing as a mother because I can’t get my son to clean the bathroom properly. Questioning if I will just always only have a best friend/ex-fiancé who tells me I am ‘too much.’ Questioning if it’s normal to feel alone when there are people everywhere. Questioning what my purpose is. Questioning what I am supposed to do with my ‘too much’ because obviously something has to come of it. Just questioning nonstop and not getting any answers.

So, I went. It was amazing. I sang. I laughed. I shared in positive, loving energy. I had fun. I did it without feeling guilty. I did it while being appreciative for the opportunity to be there in this moment. (No pun intended.) I shared my energy and gifts with them and they shared their energy with me. The music soothes my stress because I wasn’t thinking about all the questions. I wasn’t concerned about anything except the now.

So, to add to my ways of putting me first, going forward, when I am stressed and overwhelmed, I am putting on my favorite music and I am just going to let go. I already do a 5-second-dance, which I will talk about another day. This is going to be longer than 5-seconds though. I am worth more than 5-seconds and am happy to give myself as much time as needed to make myself feel better. Self-care and self-love first. Always.